Neglect

Dear friend

Happy new year.

I've been thinking about how overbearing I became to my friends who matter most. How I kept seeking validation, how I kept asking them to soothe me and ground me because I - somehow - failed to self-soothe.

Friday, 09 January 2026 · 2 min · Oliver

What's my motivation?

Dear friend

Motivation for change is a really difficult topic. I, myself, struggle to find a realistic balance between wanting to grow for myself, and wanting to grow for other people.

Sunday, 21 December 2025 · 2 min · Oliver

Acceptance

Dear friend

Last night, something finally clicked that had never clicked before. I do not have to be ‘the depressed one’, I get it now.

Thursday, 11 December 2025 · 2 min · Oliver

Denial

Dear friend

It's been almost 3 weeks. It feels just like before, but this time I have nothing to hold on to.

Tuesday, 09 December 2025 · 2 min · Oliver

An answer?

Dear friend

I don't want to pile on the excuses. I'm not going to pretend like my actions were outside of my agency. But I find it critical to understand the why of my behaviour so that I can work on fixing it.

Sunday, 07 December 2025 · 2 min · Oliver